As with everything, friendships change when having fun becomes a business. Ya hate to see it happen, but it does.
This is a huge part of the deal.
Back in the early eighties, I worked at a company that was fairly informal, but we worked hard and played hard, and we did it together. Picnics, seasonal parties, etc. Hell, they even stocked the fridge in the break room with beer, with the understanding you put in a quarter for a bottle, and did so only after the end of the day, and didn't get carried away. Great place to work. Loved it there. Then, "The Boss" built a new building and we moved out of our rented space into a brand new "high class" facility. "The Boss" changed, thinking he needed to upgrade the image of the company. It was no longer the great place to work that it was, "The Boss" became more strict and more demanding, invoking some pretty silly rules. (No personal pictures at your desk is one that comes to mind. Looks "unprofessional.") Some of the employees that had started with the company moved on, fed up with the change in the "corporate attitude."
I don't know if any of you recall it, but I remember seeing an interview of Coil, who described how he came to work for John. The way I remember it is that John had heard the Chi Town Hustler team was dissolving, and called Coil to see if he wanted to be his crew chief. Austin said he'd think it over and call back in the morning. John called back within an hour, and kept calling back. Austin said he finally said yes so he could get some sleep.
Taking that story at its face, what kind of "conversation" would have ensued had Austin told John beforehand about his departure???? John strikes me as a man who
rarely takes "no" for an answer.